Episode 21: No Time for Self Care - How About Becoming Self Full With Elinor Harari
In this episode of Investment of Self, Kathy engages with guest Elinor Harari, exploring the essential themes of self-care, resilience, and life's shifting priorities. Kathy, while transitioning to support high-achieving women, uncovers the nuanced balance of self-care with Elinor's guidance through the holistic SPIRE model and the nurturing power of self-compassion.
They both unravel the concept of "selffulness," highlighting the importance of self-care not just for individual well-being but also for sustaining the capacity to care for others.
The episode offers actionable insights, including a straightforward 3-step method for well-being self-assessment, and emphasizes the efficacy of minimum viable interventions (MVIs) in revitalizing daily life. Time management and alignment of personal schedules with values are examined, providing listeners with tools to foster genuine life satisfaction.
In this episode, Kathy and Elinor discuss:
Transitioning and Self-development
Selffulness and Self-care
Recovery from Stress and Antifragility
Present Connections and Minimizing Distractions
The SPIRE Model
Timestamps:
[00:00] Psychology focus on problems, needs balance with hope.
[04:05] Discovering inner guide improves confidence and relationships.
[07:52] Yoga and dance helped process trauma, inspire others.
[12:31] Realigning priorities, time management, and making adjustments.
[14:10] Prioritize, strategize, and manage time consciously.
[18:02] Chronic selflessness weakens immune system, self-care vital.
[22:22] Recovery, not stress, key to avoiding burnout.
[25:41] Reclaiming agency and disconnecting from technology.
[27:52] SPIRE model addresses 5 components of well-being.
[33:47] New 90-day calendar, aligning goals and time management.
[36:28] Positive psychology growth, self-fullness, overcoming self-doubt.
[40:45] Self-care is vital for supporting others.
[42:25] Self-care is essential for women's well-being.
[45:43] Encouraging self-care: Pay attention, listen, act.
[48:57] Seek connection, share pain, and show compassion.
If Elinor was a pill, what effect would she want to have on someone?
Give people the ability to see things from different angles, to gain clarity and hope.
Book Elinor is currently reading:
Happier: Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment by Tal Ben-Shahar
The book is about the SPIRE model, and although I was already familiar with this work frame, it introduces a lot of research and knowledge to each element, making it, in my view, the most astonishing tool to cultivate happiness and well-being.
Resources mentioned in this Episode
More About Elinor Harari
Elinor Harari is a certified WBI Positive Psychology Coach with a BA in Psychology from Tel Aviv University. She works one-on-one with clients worldwide, among them many expats like herself, and leads positive psychology workshops and retreats.
Her mission is to empower people to flourish and thrive, regain control over their lives, build confidence to pursue their dreams, and live an intentional, meaningful, and satisfying life.
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